We answer some of the most commonly asked questions & care scenarios we hear all the time from our clients.
‘One person caring for another represents life’s greatest value’ – John Hoeven
Caring for another comes in many shapes and forms.
For some, this may be taking your loved one’s grocery shopping once a week and sorting out their bills. For others, this can be quite a physical form of personal care such as bathing, getting dressed, cooking and feeding, requiring more time and attention.
When physically caring for someone is unsustainable, there can be feelings of guilt, confusion, indecisiveness and overwhelm. Finding the right aged care option is no easy task, especially when you’re making life-changing decisions for someone you love. As an independent aged care advocacy and consultancy service, we have witnessed the emotional toll, bureaucracy and complexities that come with navigating the aged care system.
That’s why having someone like Pauline Healy by your side who will support, listen and guide your family to find the best care solution to meet your loved one’s individual care needs is invaluable and will make a world of difference.
To give you an idea of the breadth of our services and how we can support your family, we’ve answered some commonly asked questions and care scenarios we hear all the time from our clients.
Care Scenario: “Mum says she doesn’t need help but doesn’t realise my brother and I are there every day to assist. This is exhausting and not sustainable. What can we do to help her understand?”
This is quite a common scenario that clients seek our advice on. One approach we’ve taken is to suggest that when you’re visiting your loved one, you refrain from assisting or doing required tasks for them as a way to broach the topic. Of course, we would never want your loved ones to be at risk, which is why we advise you’re there to supervise them when they attempt to complete their tasks.
Most likely, they’ll be unsuccessful completing the tasks without you, which will then create an opportunity to communicate to them why having care in their home is important. By taking this approach you’re giving them a chance to realise for themselves how valuable this extra support will be. In fact, having care in their home will only add to their quality of life by taking out the stress of completing these every-day tasks.
As guilty as you may feel, it’s really important that you be honest with your loved one. Let them know that Well Placed Care will set up carers to support them at home, which means they will receive high quality support that’s suited to their individual needs. More importantly emphasise the point that by allowing care in their home, your time spent with them will be quality social time.
Care Scenario: “My Mum has dementia and won’t let the carers in the house.”
When you have a loved one living with dementia, there are obvious risks when they live alone. Often with dementia comes paranoia as well as loss of insight and judgement. They can confuse night with day. One day they may not let the carer in but another day they may open the door to anybody. When the safety of your loved one is at risk in their own home, we suggest moving your loved one into an aged care facility.
It’s a known fact that people with dementia require routine and security. This is why it’s more often the case that they thrive in an aged care setting. Not only does it offer an environment adapted to keep them safe, but having around-the-clock care means there’s always someone there to maintain a healthy routine for them.
When you engage in our services, we’ll gauge where your loved one’s care needs are at and to ascertain which facility would be best suited for their present and future care situation. Ultimately, we’ll give you peace of mind knowing your loved one will be in a safe home environment.
Care Scenario: “My parents need to go into a home. They want to stay together but my Dad needs more care than my Mum. What do we do?”
Understandably couples want to stay together! The good news is, residential aged care facilities have what is referred to as ‘ageing in place’. When living in an aged care home, your loved ones’ care needs may increase over time. Ageing in place means they’re not required to move to another facility when their care needs become higher.
Because of this most couples are able to stay together, regardless of their individual level of care. This can result in your parents living in the same room, side-by-side, or perhaps in a different wing if one may require memory support. We can support your parents during their transition and ensure they’re kept together whilst also making sure each of their care needs are met.
So, what is your care scenario? Did any of these situations feel familiar to you or spark an emotional response? If so, perhaps it’s time to start the journey with your family into seeking out some aged care options.
Whether you’re searching for the right service to future-proof against your specific circumstances or require an immediate care solution, we’ll be able to offer information that is informed, current, accurate and suited to your specific care needs.
Seeking out aged care consultancy and advocacy services such as Well Placed Care is an incredible act of love for your loved ones. It’s a proactive approach to find quality care that will suit the needs of your loved ones, keeps the whole family informed as you navigate the aged care system and means you can stay focused on each other by letting us take care of all the necessary details.
Don’t navigate the aged care system alone & contact us today.